It's important for you to reach the point where you honestly believe that your happiness in life is not dependent upon the love of your wife. You have to get to the point where you totally and completely believe that you can and will be happy in the event that your wife does not return to you. I myself am now at that point.
Is it any easier? Has she responded in any way? Has she ended the affair? Is she begging to return? Obviously, the answer to all questions is NO. I have been DBing only since mid-May. In three and a half months, not much has changed. And most here will agree that my DBing efforts have only just begun. Once she files (I expect her to do so in Sept.), my work will become more difficult.
Overall, things at home really have not changed. But when her extramarital relationship crumbles (and I know that it will) and she decides to return to me (less likely), then I will be in a much stronger position. I will be in a position of control, where I will hear what she has to say. There may be tears and desperate pleading ... but neither will come from me.
And... if she decides to go on her own, or with her BF, or another man, I am emotionally prepared to move on. Although I am not there yet, I know that when the time comes I will be well prepared to get out there and rock the town with my PMA. All unmarried, successful, confident, and attractive women in Ohio between 33-44 had better prepare themselves...
