It sounds like you handled that conversation with the girl as well as you could. I don't look forward to that conversation but I know it will happen eventually.
The OM relationship will not last and you know this deep down inside. You have to decide if you can forgive her actions.
It is time to really detach from the sitch but remain positive and supportive. Act like you are okay with this sitch. when you are around her, act like you are moving on. I guess the key word here is act!
You will come to the realization that you will be alright and maybe even better without her. I don't think any of us want the R that we had before. The WAS has to realize what mistakes they have made and they have to want to change and most of all they have to fall back in love with us for any progress to be made.
As long as we keep telling them to work on the R or telling them how good it could be it just pushes them further away because they don't feel it now. They will come to realize what they have done and what pain they have caused.
Your W keeps bringing up the sex issue and I really don't think that is the main issue. I think she uses that to rid herself of guilt. She may have fallen out of love with you but the affair and the guilt weighs heavily on her mind. The more she can put on you helps to justify in her head what she has done.
BD....just try and be the best dad you can be right now...those girls need you now more then ever.
