I haven't read through all of Grasshopper's posts yet, but that WAS comment rings true. While I didn't have an A or outwardly quit on my M, I know that in some ways I emotionally distanced myself from my W for a few years. She was trying to help me in her way, but I wasn't listening or hearing her. In not paying attention to her needs, in focusing on me and my pain at the time, I was, in some senses, a WAS inside of our M. I just didn't have the courage to do anything to change it or the wisdom at the time to see what I was doing.
Poop. So here I am.
Hang in there ladies. And, Bar, just because it's not the "done thing" to walk down to a pub for a beer doesn't mean you still can't do it.
And, Puddle, I keep looking over your thread trying to offer somewhat less addled advice, but I just can't seem to decipher what your H is after, other than a free pass to go his on way without any guilt (which strikes me as very cowardly -- sorry, you're angry enough with him that I don't need to add further fuel to that fire). If I puzzle out a decent thought for you, I'll let you know
BD
Last edited by Heimlich; 08/20/0710:03 AM.
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Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
