My D came back from H's last night, and quickly spiraled into her regressive state, whining and finally hysterical crying. I had told H about this recurring dynamic, and he asked that I put them on the phone with him so he could hear the anguish.
She called him and the phone was busy. I paged him and asked that he call her, which he did. He then spoke with S. I got on the phone. He had tried to solve the sitch that she was complaining about, which I said really wasn't necessary--the upset comes from not having him here. He agreed, but said he backed me up 100%.
It went downhill from there.
He still insists that he will have the kids around CW, since she is in his life now. Went on and on about how she has only cared about and for our children, and that my hatred of her is off-base and unwarranted. Again, I could give him all of the reasons for my perspective, and they are all wrong. Citing her parenting skills, he said that I should look within before I start bashing someone else...essentially finding fault in that in me, too.
I am so very sad, almost back to devestated. I asked him not to do this to me, to the kids--how much more can I take? He continues to say that he is moving on, that there will be another woman in his life, if not CW then someone else. But not me.
Why do I still love this man? How do I make it stop?
