Plank removed from eye, too late for WAW 3

[Heimlich]

atlas,

Thanks, man. I'm kindof thinking along the same lines. I can honestly say that I know why she felt like she had to connect with someone else. It's just I've finally figured out my end and I KNOW that I've got what she needs and she can't acknowledge it now. It's like I had the worse possible timing combine with looking like a clingy, weak, insecure nimrod.

I am acting as if I'm moving on. I've told her how I feel and that, even with what I know today, the door is still open (OT, that's not something I said AFTER that phone call, but as part of it. No more pursuing. Check!)

I believe that I'll be available to her to reconnect for a little while longer, but I'm moving on. Looking back, I haven't really had a wife in 4 months -- no love, no intimacy (emotional or physical) -- but a roommate. Plus, the W that I thought I had in late winter and early spring was a lie. An illusion concocted by my W because she wasn't emotionally honest enough with me to tell me how I was making her feel. I ain't perfect, but I really do deserve better than that. So, either she'll come back and be taht "better than that" or I'll eventually find someone to be "better than that." In some ways, it won't be hard. I've shied away from listing my W's faults because it's not productive, but, man, she's got 'em.

And, Atlas, you're damn right. I've told her I don't need her, but that I want her. Time to show her that I really don't.

Thanks man. Hope your health is holding up OK. Sounds like we're in the same place, but we're coming to the same conclusions.

BD