Newcomer in Pain

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Nikki - Sorry for my tardy reply. I have been busy with the divorce settlement and finding an apartment. The W continues to amaze us all. Last night, she invited her parents and brother/SIL to a concert she was in charge of, mainly in order for them to meet the OM. They did, and she had her brother and wife come back to the house and stay over.

I agreed to vacate the travel trailer in the side yard I have been sleeping in in order for her brother to have a place to sleep. So she arranged it that I would stay at the house just long enough to put our D and her cousin to bed at 9 and then leave for my mother's house 25 miles away, to clear the decks and leave my son in charge. She then brought OM back here with brother/SIL and had son turn on the spa for them all. (BTW, the brother/SIL totally sympathize with me just like her parents, and thinks his sister has lost it).

Then, at 11:30, when they were done, she woke up my son to turn the spa off. (We are all just tools for her gratificition). The next thing I know is that my son calls me on my cell-phone this morning to tell me the OM stayed over. He said when he woke up and saw OM's BMW still outside, he wanted to take a hammer to it. We arranged that I would come right away and pick him up around the corner. He now wants to move in with me as soon as I move into the apartment. I told him sure. We hung out all day today at the movies and golf driving range. We are now even closer. Also, I showed him where our new apartment was.

S will be telling his mom tomorrow morning. The amazing thing is she still has no clue how he feels and cheerfully left a voicemail about how they were going out to breakfast tomorrow moring.

I keep reminding myself of what my coach tells me: "Don't forget, you're dealing with a drug addict." Common decency and common sense apparently have no place in that world.