As for an actual answer, I think it comes down to you and your feelings. What is the final line he has to cross for you still to take him back ? Is it having this affair or anything else, only you can answer that. I know for myself long ago, my line in the sand was either a judge said we were divorced or she was pregnant, about anything else I believe I could forgive. I don't think you are right or wrong for feeling the way you are, it is something that is dear to your heart no matter how much crap he has thrown at you.
Feeling sorry for yourself is not going to help, stand up on those two legs and live, for yourself and your kids. Don't ever believe you did the wrong thing in this situation, I believe that falls squarely on his shoulders.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
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