"He (they) have done some reading, and he knows that his support payments are probably twice that required by the courts..."
Yep. That and the computer thing demonstrate that he has moved past the super generous stage. He will likely soon be in the bitter I-shouldn't-have-to-pay-that-b*tch stage. (Not a nice stage.)
I hope all goes well and your original agreement sticks tomorrow so that his nasty stages don't affect you financially. The courts are never going to devise such a generous agreement and H will never sign off on such a generous agreement again. So, unless you are sure it won't threaten that agreement, I'd say go for the no-conact thing separately AFTER the financial sitch is handled.
Oh, and don't remind him about court. Not your job. Definitely not to your advantage.
"Are there any specific actions that you would recommend that shows to H that I am accepting, but not endorsing?"
Yeah. Do nothing except stick to business. No R talk. No questioning. No trying to get him to see the light. Stick with forgetting the friends thing for now. For him, that is all about himself and trying to feel like a good guy. Not your job to make him feel like a good guy.
