always,

Dear friend. As we have talked about so many times, there is no Hollywood ending to any of this. I think Newman is the only one I've ever heard of having that...

Yes, it is still heartbreakingly sad. Nobody won here. My heart is broken. H's head is broken.

I got "some" answers...certainly not all. I will get them before this is all said & done. I do think he will want to come back at some point to visit longer and talk further. We'll see, once he gets himself moved into his new apt. and ticks another box off his list of things he has to do.

The difference now is that I would not just take H back no matter what. If he can never get himself together enough to be a good man, someone worthy of trust and love, then it's over for good. I don't want to be married to anything less than what I deserve. None of us should.


Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.