thank you , it did help. My H has never looked back. He moved out in June 2005, but didn't file until last Dec.2006. I was hoping that was a sign that he was confused and wasn't sure what he wanted b/c he waited so long . So when he did file I kind of gave up hope that he was ever going to return.
I signed the papers last month, we are now legally S. H has to pay me $700.00 that he owes me before my attorney will finalized the D. So it is sitting on my L's desk right now until the money is rec'd.
My H told me I neglected our M and he wasn't important to me. He had been unhappy for a very long time. Funny thing is.... if he was so unhappy then why did we still laugh together, go out socially together, have a great sex life.... etc. If he was so unhappy then wouldn't things have been so much worse???
When he left, he told himself it was over. He hasn't looked back. He began a new life with Ow and now treats me like I am the enemy and that he hates me. He took an eraser and I am completely gone from his head.
My H seems happy with his new life, that includes Ow. I try not to read too much into his "happiness" b/c I know he wears a mask most of the time. It is difficult to really know how he is truly feeling. He wears a suit of armor.
Thanks again for responding and stay strong. Your sitch sounds like it may be turning around. I am happy for you. Give your H some time and he may just want to come back to you.
