Right. It is definitely positive that your W is still in the house. I think it just takes time for her to open up. If you push, they push back. When they are ready they will talk. Don't bring up R if you can help it. Talk about anything else. Maybe stuff that make her feel like you are interested in her and what she wants. Create an environment where she would enjoy your company. Talking about R definitely isn't on her list of enjoyment. Just feel positive and hope for the best. I have to move out in couple weeks to start my "exile" and I've been told I can only have minimal contact with her except me visiting the kids in order for her to sort out her feelings. It absolutely kills when your primary language is quality time and physical intimacy. So you are already better off than me with your sitch. \:\) Stay positive and you'll get through this.

Oh my W has already said that "Oh you have it easy. You only have to be proactive in the chores to make me happy. I can't provide you with what you need right now because I don't have the feelings for you to do that." *sigh* \:\)

M: 31
W: 31
M: 7 T: 8
S:4 D:2
Bomb dropped: too many to count or remember, 12/17/07 last one
S on 9/2/07
W sent off D papers 12/31/07. Me trying to live life and hope she returns one day.

My sitch:
http://tinyurl.com/3dqw93