Thanks for the replies. Nugget has asked for a bit of background. I think MLC is probably the reason for all this. My wife always wanted children but although we tried desperately (including 2 IVF sessions) this was not to be. In May 2003 she had to undergo a hysterectomy due to complications with Fibroids.On the night she dropped the bomb she told me that her "mind" had been "changing" and she first felt it coming on after the op. She lost her Mum in Jan2006 and I think this has a strong bearing on the issue.(I don`t think she has fully greived her mother`s death. Prior to the seperation she had been dressing a lot younger and became obssessed with regular excercise and healthy eating she even went to her G.P. to see about not taking any more H.R.T. tablets (probably because of the breast cancer scares in the press) We have been out together for about 3 hours this aft(longest time together alone since the split)and had a pleasant meeting. We haven`t discussed any serious issues and I don`t push them. She has been telling me all about her new job (caring for the elderly) which I helped her to get. Some of the instances of her Mums illness and her caring came out during this. The thing that irks me the most although I don`t pass comment on it is that she regards her sisters house as her home. She has one very small back bedroom in a very small terraced house. She has a beautiful home here which she was always proud of. I suppose things are improving in that several weeks ago she wouldn`t come in the street let alone the house. Thanks for your help and I would apprecite any further advise
