You are so very new at this. And the road ahead is a bumpy, enlightening one. I hope you have your seatbelt on!
What you are describing, with the hugs and coldness, calls and no calls, other stuff, is called the "RollerCoaster" around here.
And yes, your wife will ask you to babysit so she has time to see her lover. Yes, that is true. I'm sure many others on here have addressed that, in myriad ways. I hope they will post to you, help you to find your feet again.
Sunday afternoons are a tough time around here. Many of the wise ones have Gotten A Life (GAL) and are out enjoying life and themselves. Someday you will also get there.
So....What do you want to do for you? Gym time? Jogging? New Hobby? Volunteer Work? More time with your children? Reconnecting with your parents/siblings/(male) high school friends?
You sound like you'll do very well for yourself. Please post before sending/saying stuff to your wife. Many of the men here have been in your exact shoes.
