BD,

I am sorry to hear about your discovery but I don't think it changes anything. If there is any chance at reconcilliation with your wife down the road you need to back off like OT said.

Only you will know if you really want things to work out. I believe you do and I know you can get past this but you need to listen to the good advice that people are giving you.

Stay positive. I know it's hard.

Maybe we need to have another cup of coffee! \:\)

Matt