Lessons from a former WAS

[thegoodfight]

I had my procedure on Friday, I had to drive myself since my W. that suggested this 2 months ago has decided it is not the best thing, since the next person I meet might want to have children. My response was I have all the biological children I want, so that is not an issue for me. I suppose it was guilt like know since she has decided her love for me is completely dead and the papers (which aren't filed yet) are just a formality.

She also informed me she expects me to give full financial support above and beyond child support and other daily necessities to her until she can find someone else who can help her keep the house for our son as she contends. On top of that she told me how she dreads coming home sometimes and although I have been so nice and done a great job and treated her well; she just wishes I would stop because it is a waste of time.

She feels like running away from this she doesn't want to face it anymore, she is miserable and I am to blame for it all. Her words, Well thanks in part to the medication and painkillers I did not receive this bit of news well. I did not yell because expressed my frustration given the situation. I tried to be comforting and somewhat neutral but was further irritated when she then took her ring off, yet again!

Unfortunately I am not sure how I feel anymore other than I am very worried about how she will face reality. I feel very responsible for a lot of this, but not enough to support everything finacially and live in a cardboard box until she finds someone else.

The sad part is my W. is very independant and just seems to be going 180 in opposite direction. I really wish she would go to counseling, but since she is not crazy (her words). It won't help. Don't know but a very stressful and unsettling weekend to say the least.

One positive though she is finally expressing openly how mad she is about everything, it has been bottled up for some time.

Any thoughts?