Thanks Dave -- you're right about that. The door will still be open, but the focus is much less on her now, if at all (at least that is my current goal). I will try not to be conscious of what would spark her interest, curiosity, etc, when she is to come get the kids (or vice versa). I'm just going to be the best dad and best person I can be for me, and try not to worry whether or not W notices. No more monitoring, taking stock, etc. I must detach as much as possible in order to move on. Hopefully I will still be willing or in a position to work things out with W if she ever changes her mind. At this point, I'm seriously doubting she ever will, OM or not. I will definitely not drop my hard-earned changes, but just won't worry about how/if they effect change and/or change of heart in W.
Donna,
I'd like to make the trek to CT in Oct, but I have a 5 day Jazz Festival in Sun Valley, ID from Oct 17-21 to attend (and Lindy Hop dance, of course). Maybe in the spring (foilage is pretty then too, right?)...
Awesome on the Lindy lessons (and bellydancing)! I've got a Lindy friend who has also taken belldancing lessons, and OH MY GOSH!
