bobelina...I have said this before,it has become a broken record, I guess our stories are so,so close to each others...amazing...
In regards to Hosea...as you know God tells Hosea to love his wife though she is loved by another...Hosea 3;1...the difference from my wife and Gomer ( great name) is that Gomer was repentant...my w thinks she has found her soul mate from the past( HighSchool ) and is running as fast as she can to her new found happiness, leaving everything else behind...and I mean everything( even her two little dogs )...running from me and her faith...

We all are doing DB stuff,and anything else to bring back the love of our lives, but we wait and wait, the clock keeps ticking away and it seems we get farther and farther form our loves...
It is all easier said than done....you know that you need to let her go, as the prodigal Father...and then hope that they will come to themselves and return with a repentant heart...all we can do is pray and watch the horizon for them ( of coarse take care of ourselves & family ) ...its the waiting and watching part that is driving me nuts...
We are in the last hours of our marriage, 17yrs and I can barley catch my breath...I do know that w/ the Lords help I have done everything I can do for our marriage and that I honored the commitment we made on our wedding day...( on the inside of our wedding bands )Ruth 1:16-17 "Don't urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. 17 Where you die I will die, and there I will be buried. May the LORD deal with me, be it ever so severely, if anything but death separates you and me."
bobelina...like you I am looking for a girl who has lost her way...she has eaten to much of the Ice Queen's turkish delight...will she wake up in time ?...will she ever wake up ?... when do we stop the looking ?...there is so much at stake !....Thats all...I am a sad pup as well...SorryDog

PS ...on the positive side; my relationship w/ our Lord is where I seek my validation with Him alone...I said "seek", but I know from this all things can flow...