I am in Missouri. Thanks for your help. \:\)

Funny thing is, I would separate with no agreement at all. Its H who is scared if he moves out, I am going to take the house from him. His idiot brother told him if he moves out, I can claim he abandoned me and will automatically get the house. DER I kicked him out when I found out about A, but he came back the next day because of this. I have heard the "Its my house too" when we discuss separation. I have no intention of messing with the kids and our money. NONE.

I never thought my H would have an affair, so maybe I should rethink whether or not he would screw me in a divorce, since this isn't the man I married.