I don't know if it helps to have company, but the OP *always* reappears after the first time that the A is supposed to have ended. Yes, really, always, at least in any case I have ever seen. Generally, people are convinced that their case is an exception. Unfortunately, they are proven wrong with uniform consistency.
The OP being gone in the long run takes a long time and many more lies/omissions/broken commitments to get through.
The point is: pretty much any M that has been healed on these boards involved an OP, and involved an OP reappearing repeatedly.
It is your choice whether to close the door on your M. I just want to let you know that nothing has really changed in your sitch, except your perspective, by your discovery.
Personally, I don't think you are anywhere near closing the door on your M. But, that doesn't mean that you shouldn't put down some firm boundaries and enforce them regarding your R with W.
