And the scary thing is....after much lurking....I see a bit of myself in cemar. Not the bitching....but the need to be desired. We have the same problem, but handle it differently.
Even at that....you have given me much to ponder GEL.
My marriage is improving in the desire dept....but it was through ALOT of communication and general "backing off" and just concentrating on trying to be A GOOD HUSBAND.
And before you say it, cemar.....I had to try to be *HER* version of a good husband, not MY VERSION.
I found that when that improved....the desire I was looking for slowly started to peep its head around more often. Not as much as I'd like.....but alot more than I had.
Even with all this, it took TWO YEARS before I even *started* to see an improvement.
But I don't have an "all or nothing" mentallity.....so while it might be mildly disappointing, I choose to focus on the fact that its SO much improved from where we were....and I have reason to believe that it will *keep* improving over time......although sometimes (I admit) I wish it was improving a little faster.
