The thing of it is is that she still says she loves me. She says she loves him too just differently. I don't know how people DB, I'm just doing my best to keep sane.

I guess another question is if she feels like we haven't been close and I'm 180'ing and GAL won't she feel like it's status quo. I guess how do I become the "more attractive" alternative if you will if it seems like I'm checking out. The GALs work.. I mean she really notices it. Yesterday, I simply took a walk and she was like freaking out because I "never did that in the 9 years she's known me". I don't think that's true but regardless after such a GAL (previously I went to the movies) she becomes real affectionate and says she's sorry and so on. Then about 4 hrs later she shuts her self in her room and gets cold. God, this is so confusing. I just don't want her to think I've given up by GAL'ing but I also want DB to work. It seems at odds with itself. Does that make sense?


H 30 (me)
W 28
Married 9 yrs
2 children
EA found out on 7/5/07
ILYBNILWY 8/25/07
The unexamined life is not worth living -Socrates