Thanks for the encouragement; I really appreciate it.
Yes, Cinders, my H had ow 2+ years ago and it lasted off/on for about 1 1/2 years. My understanding is that he is well rid of her and this happened last fall. Now, reality is that he could still be in contact with her; I do not know for sure. He also did date other women throughout all of this. I do not know if he has a girlfriend at this point, but if he does, she must not need much in a boyfriend because H is certainly not quality dating material right now.
snodderly, thank you for what you said. He will have plenty of space now, to let the dust settle and do some thinking.
He did also remark to me about his job, and how even after he got the transfer he had wanted so badly, it was not the "solve-all" for his unhappiness. He said, "I thought it would be, but it wasn't." So to recap, he's: left his wife, changed his job, taken on and discarded trashy ow, and still not satisfied with life.
I hope to have that longer talk at some point with him. I think it would give me a lot of closure.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
