Helping each other protect our kids... thoughts?

[Lissie]

I am so, upset by all of this ,that I see my self, trying to change laws, and have a Lifetime movie about the story of my life, and how I brought down these OW's (sigh)


The only thing we can do seems like prayer, and honesty.

My situation is very hard, b/c Puffy will not, can not, co parent with me. He is a compulsive liar, and he does not have the best interest of the children in mind.

B/c his mind does not work.

So i have totally let go of the fact that he will help me with anything.

Now, How can I be the sole parent to give the "right" advice to my kids.

I don't know, that is when I call in the troops of my family.

I let them around the kids, and the kids have pretty much a good idea, that the whore is not their mother, and that how papi is with her is wrong.(even tho Puffy says it is a friend)

No Louie is a friend of mine that is male. And Louie is not hidden, Louie is part of the family. Louie is a real friend.

Do I ever say that your father is a bad person? never. But what he is doing is wrong.

But even tho he is doing it, it does not mean he loves them any less.

But My son said, but if he left us, and that is a sin, then he does not love us as much as you love us.

I said buddy, I am so sorry you feel that way, let's pray that we all just make the best decisions.

B/c I learn everyday.

There is nothing legally to stop this BS.

This is why there is so much Divorce in this damn country, b/c morality has gone out the window.

The kids see it, and then they think it will be ok to, do this to their families.

My brother tried to tell my mom, that he wanted to leave his wife once, she hit him on the head with a broom and told him , his wife and kids will live with her, and he can have a good life.

B/c he never saw any disrespect like that in our home, and she would be damned if he was going to bring that type of disrespect around any of us.

He didn't leave his wife.


My father would of never have had the balls to disrespect ME, by doing what Puffy is doing.

But like my dad says. When puffy's dad did this to him, Puffy had no where to look to for advice, or a good parenting role model.

His mother in turn dated everyone under the sun, he saw different men coming in and out of his life.

And he thought that this was the norm

It isn't.

I will sacrifice orgasmsm with some guy, if I have to, as long as my kids are ok and safe. That is not a big deal to me at all.

They are my priority, and double time , b/c their father is lost soul.

So I think if anybody has come up with a good way of handling this crap, when it comes to these OW please share it.

I will post all the links I have been reading.

They met the OW once, but Puffy has told me that he will bring them around her before the D.

So this is something I have to brace myself for, so I am reading as much as I can about it.

And sadly i have to say, that the kids are traumatized in these cases, with all I read.

Even if the OW is playing "nice" it does not matter.

These meetings are breeding the wrong message in our children, and it is breeding a society of horrible moral.

But all i can do is my best in MY home.

Thank you for starting this thread, I am looking forward to all the suggestions.