He said he is not coming home, ever. He did not miss me, or miss the pit in his stomach when he had to see me. He doesn't want it. Even if he breaks up with this woman, if she goes back with her husband. He said, You will never accept any other relationships I may have in the future--I said no, just not this one, the one that broke up our marriage when I was still trying to save it.
I am just sad about the whole mess--it is such a shame. He wants to try to be friends, be around each other with no pressure. He said he can't do anything (friends, coparent) with me if I am still holding out to save the marriage. I told him he doesn't have to worry about that anymore. I could see the possibilities that were on the other side of us making it through this together, but he never could. He can't let go of the past, or forgive. I mentioned about forgiveness being a gift to yourself, letting go of the negative past, hurts and resentments. He said, so, I will live my life miserable and alone. I said, if you choose to.
That is so frustrating I can hardly think! I got this same speech! Where do they download it from? Do they keep it in their WS manual? They act like we are their exgirlfriends from high school and that we are stalking them! Da##, they have no idea we are women who have kids to protect. How selfish and small minded. I am sorry again. As I said before you are one month ahead of me, my crystal ball. Our coparenting class starts in a few weeks. Oh joy. I actualy thought that might snap him out of it but I guess it did not work n your H so I should not get my hopes up. I thought when he heard my D6 needed a therapy group that would too, but he just said, "I feel guilty and selfish." Then went about his business.
Can I ask you, how are we supposed to deal with Back to School? Do you just act like they are any other people? I am humiliated at the the thought of my H waltzing around my D's school. He used to vuolunteer and pick her up twice a week. Should I say that is OK or take over doing it myself since he is so whackadoo and not in Daddy mode? I need to know what to do about that schedule today!
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
