My W displays the same niceties towards me. The other night she wanted me to help her order a computer while I was at her house dropping off the kids. She made sure to sit right next to me on the couch and press her body firmly against mine while I was ordering the computer on the laptop.
The question is, does she do this when she doesn't want something from you (or is it just manipulative).
Originally Posted By: MyWifeHasGoneCra
It's like someone literally hitting you upside the head with a 2 X 4 out of nowhere and then telling you, "Oh, I'm sorry. I didn't mean for that to hurt you so bad. Can we still be friends?"
Yes...and then doing it again...and again...and again....
Originally Posted By: StupidRomeo2
OK so how should my behavior be? Should I be pissed? Should I be nice? Should I make small talk, laugh and joke with her? Should I show her I'm her friend? I'm totally confused.
If you've given the R time and the best effort you can, then it's time to be yourself. Be whichever of the above is how you really feel. Of course, you can also just disconnect altogether (which is what I've done). It's not possible to do that completely with kids involved, but while you're going to be destined to have to see her and talk with her now and again in the context of your D, that doesn't mean it has to be anything more than civil. If she makes you feel funny, don't give her the chance. If she asks how you're doing, ignore it and move on to the topic at hand. If she comes to pick up your D, make sure your D is ready to go and be cordial, but don't ask her in. If you drop your D off at her place and she invites you in, politely decline and leave.
Originally Posted By: StupidRomeo2
I don't think I'll ever be her friend, especially when other people are involved or maybe it'll be different when I do move on.
Ask yourself this question: If it were anyone else you know and they treated you as your WAW has, would you still be their friend? Friendship is a two-way street.
