I can relate today..had a really big trigger today. H was talking in his sleep ...I was trying to wake him to get ready for work and he called me the OW name.....very upsetting. He says he did not say her name and that I misunderstood him. Then he seemed to be mad at me....you know it really burns my buns for him to act like I am at fault when he is the one who screwed up!!! Then he said I was acting cold and distant...uh you just call me by the wrong name...yeah I am a little bit hurt! DUH! He says he never gives her a thought...but a part of me wonders if it is beacuse when she found out about me and she was so angry and never wnated to talk to him again....says she had no idea he was married....she apologized to me and said that is why she is divorced now..her H had an A...says she would have never done that to anyone...knows how bad it hurts.Now he is at work.....I am here alone....and sad....again. Sorry Dog...give those sweet kids a hug...they need to know they are loved and it is very clear that you love and acare for them very much....you cannot make up for the selfishness of their M but you can be there for them. Hang in there...we are here for you!
M 35 H 44 D 21,D 18,D 17, D 15, D 13, D 11, D 10, S 9 BOMB DROPPED 7/16/07 STILL TOGETHER, TRYING TO WORK IT OUT H ENDED A WITH Ow 7/15/07
