He wants you to throw in the towel and to release him. You don't have to do that unless and until you're ready.
Thanks, you're right (and I know it), and it's good to hear.
I'm not ready, and because of that, I don't know what to do about the talking. I'm also angry, of course, so I feel like I don't want to share my feelings with him (other than telling him I don't agree).
The logistical issues remain, of course, like the money issue he brought up. I know that addressing these piecemeal is an unpleasant proposition, but somehow sitting down and figuring out what we're going to do about this and that smacks too much of settling terms for a D, and I think I'm afraid of going through that. Which doesn't mean I won't have to or even that I shouldn't, for whatever reason. Is there a good one?
The one that breaks my heart is, obviously, the idea of talking to the kids. I know kids are highly sensitive, but so little has changed between us that I honestly don't think they know. Right after the bomb, my oldest caught me crying and asked, "What?" I just said, "Sometimes life is hard." But since then, nothing. Why in the world should we tell them anything now? I may just be putting off the inevitable, but to me it makes sense to leave them their blissful oblivion right now. Any thoughts?
Also note that he's not pushing for talking to the kids, but just thinks we should discuss all the possibilities around it.
