I think I cried because it's such a concrete thing. He hasn't moved out, so in a way he's still here, but seeing the tan line on his empty finger felt very real. And it made me incredibly sad. The other day he said, "We share a home, we share a name (which we don't by the way, though the kids do), and I wear your ring. I'm uncomfortable with one of those." Now I guess I know which one.
Originally Posted By: bar
Way back in Jan he flung it across the floor and called it a piece of s***. Suppose we made some progress since then.
You certainly have. And you are strong, even though you don't feel like it all the time. So am I, despite my frequent trips to the bathroom to cry!
Hey Nomopo! Nice to hear from you. Thanks for the hug (you too, bar). I really need them right now. How is it that an otherwise kind and reasonable person can turn this selfish? I think my DH sees it as his only shot at happiness, so in a way I can understand going for it. But lordy, what a price we all pay.
After I noticed the ring thing, I decided I needed to get out of the house. I packed up the kids and headed to one of my favorite places. We were gone for about 6 hours, which was great. I realized that even though I don't seem to be able to keep DH off my mind for more than a minute at a time, I feel better when I'm not just navel-gazing, so that was good. You know, sometimes I actually have to ask myself, "Is this really happening, or was that a dream?" It sucks when I realize the answer.
Told him I'm going on a hike by myself tomorrow. I think that'll be good, too. It's something I'd like to do a lot more of.
Nomopo, hope you're having a great time! bar, I hope the rest of your weekend holds many pleasant surprises. Hugs to all of you, too.
