thanks I agree. He knows my beliefs on divorce and believes that I will wait for him. I think it is causing him some distress that I have not returned his e-mails when they are spew ( I only contact about the kids...although they are both adults).and that I have contacted a lawyer to get the finaciala separated. I am now doing 180's ( no contact, not being accomodating) and they do seem to work.
