I am so sorry you are going thro' what you are going thro'

Sounds to me like your H is hedging his bets and wants to make sure that whatever happens SOMEONE will want him.

Also, even tho' he thinks it's ok for him to be with someone else he doesn't think that it would be ok for you to be and so he keeps enough contact to stop you finding a significant other.

Just ideas......

Saffie

Saffie
me 46
H 46
M in 1986
D20,D18,S16,D13
H's A 01/05 to 07/06
H recommitted to M 07/06
renewed vows 09/06
Going from strength to strength