I would look into Sam Vaknin's site. I have posted it on this board before. I think a lot of what SB states is true. Furthermore, your definition of a narcissist is too narrow. Look into Vaknin's idea of narcissistic supply and you will see narcissists can be very nice, giving, sacrificing for others, but all for the purpose of getting praise and admiration back. So it is manipulation. I believe Adult Attachment Disorder overlaps with narcissism and both are ways of addressing similar fears. Has your counselor discussed narcissism?
