IMP - MLC is not about divorce busting per se - read Michelle's stuff: she is quite explicity about that.. We are trying to save our marriages, but the reason for this particular BB is that a rather large body of people do think there is such a thing as MLC, that their spouses are behaving with particular oddity [and some of them don't have affairs, even]. DBing with somone extremely irrational is difficult.
It is good that you are sceptical, and question, but please give us the credit for some sense. If someone is on medication for being bi-polar, or has an independently verifiable history of acutue mental illness is that an LBS delusion?
Of course none of us is going to warmly welcome the OP, but I don't think the fact that our spouse is having an affair necessarily means that we cannot make a judgement about either our spouse or the OP. Even people who are paranoid are sometimes right! I
I am prepared to listen to well reasoned arguments, and evidence. I do read widely, and for the first 6 months after my h left didn't believe in MLC either. Thought it was an excuse for bad behaviour!!
