My H didn't tell ow he was married at first, and when he did she (he said) wanted to back off, but he convinced her otherwise, but she now knew he was a married man with a family, and her H had cheated on her, so she knew she was doing to another woman what some ow had done to her M. So, yes, while our H's have the main blame, do you think there is a real distinction in God's eyes about who the guilty parties are? Both of them. When I was nineteen I started dating a guy, and found out he was married, I dumped him the very second I found out, he tried calling me, I would not speak to him, he called my family members to get them to talk to me, I never ever spoke to him again. I thought it was despicable of him to be like this, a liar, and a cheater. So yes I could have been like these ow and hung onto a married man, but I was brought up better than that, there are some boundaries you just don't cross. The ow has just as much culpability as the married man does. And she sits on the other side, not caring what he is doing to his family, only that she might be the winner in this little game.
So,if now and then we blow off a little steam about the ow waiting for our husbands, then who's to say we are wrong? Decent society used to frown on this behavior, why shouldn't we?
