I see what you're trying to get at...and I *do* agree that one should feel appreciated for their efforts in "stretching their boundaries".
However....(and no, cemar, don't think I'm taking your side...because what you said *was* at the very least, insensitive)... Aren't we really talking about the passion behind the action? If so...should passion within the boundaries of a marriage really be so difficult to come by as the finances for an expensive gift? Aren't you, by way of illustration, implying that the giver is someone who is "bankrupt of passion"....therefore having to go to EXTREMES in order to "scrimp and save" to come up with this expensive gift?
Love, emotion, and open passion are not something you can put a price on.....they are by their nature, priceless. And the free flowing exchange *by both parties* does not in any way diminish the value of that "gift of passion".
Finances can often be effected by circumstances beyond our control.....a generous amont of free flowing passion is something that may be more difficult for some than for others....but the control still lies within us. No one can take away our loving gestures to our partners but us....and we also control when, where, why and how much we give.
One does not "go broke" by giving too much emotion or passion to their partner.
