Do I want him back?

[angelica]

Goal, this wanting us as friends is a weird one, and one on which there is a lot of debate. SOme feel that it is good, and should be encouraged.

I feel that for someone to be my friend they have to act like one, and I don't consider lack of concern, lack of compassion, and deceit to be the hallmarks of a friendship. But others here do it beautifully, and I admire them.

Curiously, when my husband has one of his rare flashes of sanity [last one was Dec 06/beginning Jan 07, so they aren't frequent! He told me how much he admired my self respect.

ANd BND has said that the people who told them they were doing teh right thing in MLC are the ones the MLCers turn against when they do emerge from their crisis.

I do know that any sane person wouldn't have an affair, and expect their spouse to remain their 'friend'