I'm Sandi2 and have read your stitch. I feel so sorry for both you and your W. I know you are going through hell, but she is also. She needs a good doctor. It sounds like her mental and physical condition is all messed up. Did she take any diet pills, that you know of, while she was losing weight? Aslo, some antidepression meds can mess us up...if it isn't the right kind. Antidepression meds can also cause very low sex drive. I was on them for years and felt like I had just kind of died on the inside. I had not emotions of any type (so I felt like). I was just kind of in limbo, but was not interested in sex at all. Then got involved in EA on line.
She was going through withdrawal from EA/OM. When she is going through the "grieving" stage from EA....she won't want to have sex with you. You will have to give it plenty of time. Now, she is in hospital for possible bi-polar.....it is going to be rough for you and the family. She will need counseling....medication....and a lot of time and patience on your part.
Some women (me included) cannot leave our heart where EA/OM is concerned--in one minute--and turn to our H in the next...where sex and physical affection is concerned. One reason being that the way God made the "make-up" of the female. Our "soul", if you will, is part of our love making. We have a hard time turning from one man to the other until we can get the other man completely out of our soul/heart. I hope that makes sense to you. I know it doesn't make it any easier...but hope you can understand it better.
I am so concerned, and I hope to hear how things are going. I will pray for you and your W.
Sandi2
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
