if I may be frank, you are not in piecing yet. Your H is still meeting OW and he has not committed to you and M yet. My H has. He has his doubts and he refused to just cut off OW contact completely (insisted to "let her down slowly"), but in other ways he is very nice to me, and spent effort in making me feel good.
Good point.. H has certainly not said that he is committed to me and in anger has said the complete opposite. The nice, thoughtful stuff of the past few weeks is most likely simply because of the "feeling of the moment".
Originally Posted By: ourcrisis
We are having problems discussing our issues because he is not ready (I suppose since OW is still in the picture), but we are having more deeper conversation. Your H, as far as I can tell, is moving slowly towards you. Watch his actions, not the stuff he said in argument. I have seen my H in that phase. Can't let OW go, yet don't want to let YOU go (has he mentioned anything like getting worried that YOU will leave?)
We have discussed our issues until we are blue in the face. H says that he sees that I am not willing to change so neither is he. A while back he said that he feels like in the end I won't be around anyway. It makes no sense that he just won't walk away from our M if he's that frickin' miserable.
