1) Get legal child support in place. (I already have this, but I need to work to supplement it) (2) Move. (Did this - although still looking for my own place) (3) Get a job. (Working on this as well. Am also working on finding pre-school for the 2 little ones) (4) Get loans to get the training you need. (5) Get training. (Am looking into this as well.) (6) Get a better job. (Have to find “a” job first)
And, one can simultaneously be working on a better life, which is what I feel I am doing… and STILL hurt inside. One can go to work every day, or school, or out on a date even, and still have the thoughts creep in. Just because you are doing one thing doesn’t completely obliterate the other thoughts of hurt.
And I’ve not stopped my life - as a matter of fact, have done MORE this summer than I have done (with XSO) in several years. So, it’s not exactly like I’m sitting around “pining” or “crying” over him….yet, when I find out something like this, I realize that I’m still “emotionally” involved. And that “emotional” involvement takes a hell of a lot longer to get over.
So, while I appreciate your advice, it wasn’t exactly what I was looking for yesterday. Yesterday I was down. There’s really no one for me to talk with about this stuff, except for here. With people who have gone through, or are currently going through the same thing. You went through this a long time ago; you’ve moved on, remarried, new life - and a happy one and that is great. But I think that sometimes you may forget about how you felt back then. And you’re advice is usually right and dead on and to the point, but we’re not all in the same place you are - YET.
After my day of being down, I went out for a little while last night and it helped. So, I’ve bounced back today. But yesterday - I needed to feel the pain. I NEEDED to. I don’t know how to explain it other than it was something I needed to go through to get to the other side.
