The first sign of independence for me was not caring whether or not my W responded. If i asked for something and she didnt respond, I progressed the way that I wanted to.
Start splitting your bills the way that you want to do it if he is failing to respond. If he continues to not go to change the cable, simply mail call them and change the billing address to wherever he is living and let him deal with it. You have divorce papers to show that you are not responsible for that bill anymore and if he doesnt pay it and it gets shut off, you can have it turned on in your name at that point.
That stomach ache and crap, is about you knowing what steps you must take now and being scared to take them. Just leap UA, do what you know you need to do and you will start to feel better and better.
