OC, I was reading up on your sitch and it sounds like we are in somewhat of the same place except that your H isn't having the slip-ups of going to meet the ow every so often. I guess my question is that I'm looking at my H as still having an affair because there is still contact - mostly via phone/tm and you are over in piecing. Should I be there, too? Are we in the early stages of "maybe piecing"?
We had and interesting conversation last night about selling our house and getting completely out of debt. The thought of selling our dream home upsets me so much but it would take a load of financial stress off of us. H suggested buying somewhat of a "fixer upper". Doesn't this imply long-term committment? He also said "I'd like to be able to go on a vacation". This is an interesting statement since I'm the one always talking about going on vacations and places I want to see.
I guess I see these little rays of hope; but, then he will do something completely "against" his family - ie, for ow.
My ic suggested we go to a Marriage Intensive. Maybe H will agree.. who knows.
