Need advice on WAW with OM

[svejk]

I need some advice on the LRT/going dark with my wife.

A couple of weeks ago we had agreed to one month of no contact since my wife said she needed the space. Since then we have had pretty regular contact, several times a week, mostly initiated by her.

I don't think it's helping because I believe she's just making sure I'm still around waiting for her. I think she also wants to make sure I'm strong and no longer needy, but everytime she contacts me she loves to hear that I still want her. She then goes away for awhile and comes back a couple days later and the cycle repeats. This is entirely my fault since whenever she initiates relationship talk it is difficult for me to refrain from letting her know that I still want her.

I think it would be easier for me to try to avoid her phone calls for a few days. I'd like to let her calls go to voice mail and only return them if it's something important or maybe return them a few hours later/next day.

I don't want to upset her but I'm tired of her expecting me to always be there when she needs me, and then she goes away until she needs me again. I don't think she's missing me or gaining any love for me this way.

I don't know if I should go that dark but I need to figure out some way to do something different to change the cycle we are in. Any ideas would be appreciated.

Thanks,
Svejk