Well, I guess you don't have to worry about what to do. It may be time for you to really let go and confront the fact that she is not going to change her mind and come back...at least not in any kind of time frame that will do you a lick of good. I think it's fine for you to "nudge" things along (as you say) because you have given her ample opportunity to correct course and she has had...and continues to have...the ability to put a stop to things if she really wanted to. If she isn't, it's because she doesn't want to (and, sadly, you can't change that).
