My H's brother is actually a psychiatrist. My BIL told my MIL NOT to talk badly to my H or his OW and certainly NOT to ever put them down. It only intesifies their underground attachment.
that's the same reason my friend (a therapist) told me to start using OW's name, as opposed to whore and whatnot. at least to H. because it de-mystifies/normalizes her. it was really, really hard at first. I choked every time I said her name at first, but I did see her point.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
