How do you resist contacting the OP?

[ACJ]

I have two experiences of contacting/speaking to OW.

After our last split I confronted what I thought at the time was the first OW. She was older than us and a very successful business woman. I told her if she came near my H again I would make sure her neighbours all knew what she really was - a whore. It worked. BUT it was over before I found out. I also had nightmares about her and H sleeping together and everytime we were intimate I saw her face. I could quite literally picture her sat in my car on the way to work and sat on the end of my desk. It drove me insane. This took months to get over and was a very difficult time for me.

My Hs current OW is 26, he is 42. I haven't contacted her directly but they live together, are engaged (even though we haven't started D proceedings) and he also met her about a month after he left me. (at the point of leaving he was with a 22yr old whom I did contact but she didn't know it was me b/c i made out I had dialled a wrong number). My H initially insisted on bringing this OW to my sons sporting events etc and quite literally paraded her in front of me and the kids (much to everyone else's amazement and disgust!). I did confront her on at least one of these occassions and I certainly sent H several TMs referring to 'his whore' and other colourful names! It didn't work it just pushed them closer together. He is now so far up her a** that it will take surgery never mind a miracle to remove him. She has everything to gain by staying with him.

So my advice is the same as someone else's Ls: DON'T DO IT