How do you resist contacting the OP?

[ediemarie]

I did call the OW. And let me say this: DON'T DO IT!

I told her off - I told her everything I thought. I didn't even take a breath (LOL) I just tore her a new one for a good minute (felt like a half hour but it really was about a minute). But I didn't swear, I didn't yell at her, I just calmly told her what I thought about the situation, what I thought about her, and told her to stay away from my husband. Her response was 8 little words that I have come to hate since then: "thank you for telling me how you feel" and then she hung up on me.

I gained no ground whatsoever. Additionally, it made no positive difference in the situation. My H still saw her, she still contacted my H and he rekindled the R with her -

Don't call the OP. You can resist the urge because you now KNOW that you will not be gaining anything. In fact the OP gains the upper hand and is going to continue doing what they are doing no matter what. You don't matter to the OP at all. The situation has nothing to do with you. You think you're involved, but in reality you aren't.

Write a letter and burn it, send an email to yourself, rant into a tape recorder, tell us what you want to say...just don't do it - it isn't worth it - BTDT and would never do it again!

Em