Did the knife-slicing not help the idea of a tattoo? It isn't as bad as it sounds -- promise.
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Going to be hard to do acts of service for her. Right now, when I do stuff for her, she thinks it's manipulative. When we separate, goign to have to think long and hard about that. Primarily, I'm going to make a huge effort to keep my apt. straight. I'm not dirty or a slob exactly, but I tend to clutter. Sortof like a clean Pigpen from Peanuts.
I think that's a great idea -- she'll see you doing these things for yourself too, which may allow her to withdraw the "manipulative" label she has attached to such acts. Do you think you'll have these opportunities? Will she actually be in your apt on a relatively frequent basis?
Is this something you're willing to change in your R/M with your W for the long term? I think it is a great 180, and I'm glad you've recognized it! I think I misunderstood you on the dishes in the sink thing -- didn't realize she actually wondered why you handed washed them with the rest of the dishes. She isn't really justified in her criticism IMO, but hopefully she will come around if you can reconcile and she will reinvest in the M 100%. If that happens, that is when you should maybe discuss this with her (once her mind is open to changes SHE needs to make). I'm sure you know this, but just wanted to reinforce the idea.
