Doesn't thank me for running the dishwasher, just asks me if I ran it and why I didn't put those dishes in the sink. Gee, never thought about it Wifey.
She's done this a lot over the years. Her biggest complaint is that I don't show initiative around the house. Yet it's snippy comments like this that really make me not want to.
Your W sounds like me in my M. I would do the same thing with my W. And you know what? She reacted just like you (made her not want to do those things). I'd like to see your W not be so nitpicky and critical about these things (like I've learned I need to stop doing), but do you think she would respond more favorably to both you and the possibility of reconciliation if you began meeting her expectations? They may be unrealistic (I really don't know), but the bottom line here from my POV is that her Love Language is Acts of Service. If you begin willingly doing things for her, things the way she likes them done, etc, WITHOUT her asking/telling you to, do you think she would appreciate you more and show that appreciation? I understand you said you were working, but if you put the dishes in the sink instead of posting here today (it couldn't have taken too much time, right?) do you think it would've benefitted you more in terms of your sitch? I hope this doesn't come across as harsh (I kind of feel like it is), but this whole notion of Acts of Service for your W really stuck out to me after reading your post.
Your thoughts on this?
(Oh, and maybe we can just club you unconscious so you can get that tattoo. That way the needle element wouldn't factor in. Whatdya say? I mean, come on -- it doesn't really feel like a needle poking you, but more like a small knife slightly slicing through the skin)
