I talked to a wonderful lawyer last spring, who advised me NOT to talk to ow, no matter how much I wanted to. she told me, in a nutshell, it wasn't a good idea, and wouldn't make me feel what I thought it would.
long story short, I did call her a few times eventually. once was after I found out she and H were still having an affair. I was slightly hysterical, had just read a bunch of text messages (she was very horny, according to them, apparently it had been a whole week since she'd slept with my husband). I called her and left a vm (she won't pick up if I do call), telling her that I understand how horny she is, and that he was all hers.
the next two times I called were because I got completely wasted with my girlfriend. I'll admit it, I drunk dialed her. I went on about this and that, don't really remember much. the last time was because my friend wanted to hear her voice...wanted to know what a whore sounds like.
yeah, I know, I'm 40, not 14. I haven't called since april, don't even have the inclination to. the lawyer was right, btw, I didn't feel any better after making any of the calls.
if you need to, write a letter to her, then burn it. you can get out all you want to say, without it somehow coming back to bite you in the ass.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
