TRUE willingness does not cause resentment; martyrdom does.
Exactly. I have lived with a martyr these past 16 years. I have told him over and over again that I would rather he just said no than pretend to be willing and then get resentful about it. That is why I asked the question. If Cemar thinks willingness=resentment then he is as much a martyr as he claims his wife to be. This is not a healthy place to be.
Cemar I suggest you do nothing you are not WILLING to do. I suggest you allow your wife to do the same.
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
