Thanks once again for your contributions. The more I read about your thought process, the more I see my wife. You could very well be her writing this.... Of course, you are not, because wife is still "in love" with her OM. But, if nothing else, you give me hope that she may come to her senses.
As I predicted, you have not been "flamed" a single time on this thread. This is a testament to the resolve that we LBS's have. You are not to be ridiculed or impugned; rather, we seek to understand your thought process. And we are grateful to you.
OK, here are my questions. First, did your husband read DR, and did he follow DB and LRT techniques? If so, please share with us your thoughts regarding this. Manipulative? Desperate? What did you see your husband doing?
Next, you mentioned that your husband said he didn't want anything to do with you until you came home and left OM for good. Did you see that as him abandoning your marriage? I mean, you said OM was your soul mate. So didn't you see your husband washing his hands of you, giving you permission to flee to OM? Why did you stick around? I hope that question makes sense. I guess am just searching for the right words for my wife, and I am wondering if a similar message would ring true with her. How did you initially respond to this message?